And mostly I think she really does forget these various items. The girl has a complicated life: two homes, two teachers, YMCA aftercare three times a week, and the dance studio four times a week. She’s bound to forget some things some of the time.
Case in point, it’s not just homework. I recently checked out her school’s lost & found and discovered not one or two of her sweatshirts, but four! Plus a lunchbox. A quick check at the dance studio a half hour later uncovered another sweatshirt.
Obviously, Hansel and Gretel have nothing on her.
But missing homework has been increasing lately, and we have to wonder if we’re getting played.
My husband and I have been
Which do you go with? The enticing carrot? Or the mighty stick? Or do you employ both -- dangle that juicy carrot in front of the mule while whipping him viscously from behind?
My first reaction is to use the stick, as I tend to parent using threats more than bribes. Not something to necessarily be proud of, but hey, it’s the truth.
My husband seemed to agree in this case.
But past experience with this daughter has proven this method less than effective.
So I’m adding the carrot. I’ve not tried an organized “reward” system since trying to potty train the girl, which was a protracted, agonizing process I don’t ever want to repeat, but she’s older, and there’s no urine involved, so I’m giving it another shot.
But I’m not ready to give up the stick, at least a small one. And anyway, said husband would not go for it. “What part is the stick?” he kept asking the other night.
So the carrot and the stick, that’s my plan. Hopefully it's the right carrot.